Chores have to be done in every household. Usually the parents do them until the kids are old enough to start helping out, and then the “fun” begins. Here are some tips on how to re-think getting your kids to do chores.
Make your family a team. Kids want to be productive. They just don’t like being bossed around. Try creating a team environment with all members of the family doing something. Most kids don’t realize that their parents do chores too. All day, every day. Once they see that, they will feel like they are helping out instead of being punished.
Show and tell. A lot of times, kids simply don’t know how to do something. Think washing dishes is easy? Not really. And even though you may have washed dishes in front of them a thousand times, they never really looked at how you were doing it. Start off a chore with a side-by-side demonstration. Even if it’s something as easy as vacuuming. They may not know how to push it and keep the cord out of the way at the same time. They may be refusing to do it simply because they’re embarrassed.
Put reasons behind the chores. For most kids, doing chores automatically means being made to do something unpleasant. Kids don’t necessarily look for the big picture, even when it will help them understand something. If they’re told to clean up the table after dinner, their eyes roll. Try showing them a video or article on the dangers of salmonella. Messy bedroom? Discuss room odors, losing things, chaos, or worse…bedbugs! You don’t have to scare them about everything. Just determine what they will understand and respect as a reason to do the chore.
Kids like autonomy. Once you show them how to do something and why it’s important, try to get out of the way. Kids like to do things on their own and show their parents that they are competent.
Switch it up. No one likes to do the same thing day after day. Try to switch up the chores so they don’t get boring. If your kids are into it, let them tell you the order that they’d like to do things.
Make it fun. Chores don’t have to be boring. Let your kids turn on music, dance while they mop or vacuum, talk to their friends while they’re cleaning up their room or the bathroom, have a short break between tasks. Chores are part of life and will never go away. Might as well enjoy them!
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